someone once told me:
“you might only get 70 summers…”
in my mum’s case, she only got 56
well, that was sobering AF – thanks v much!
& it made me think, why TF would i waste another one stuck in a job that was sucking the literal soul out of me?
i’ll be real with you, when i quit, i didn’t know what would happen. i just knew one thing: staying would swallow me whole. & so… i walked (actually i ran LF!)
the sky didn’t fall in
the world didn’t stop
the arseholes i worked for? still arseholes!
i realised the only thing that really changed was… well me. i got out
& that was the start of reclaiming my life & what summers i have left
since then i’ve learned the hardest truth: quitting your job doesn’t silence that wee doubting dick of a voice in your head
nope far from it, she’s a clingy wee bish
& she follows you like a bad smell
so i had to do what i think they call “inner work” & trust me, it wasn’t all zen retreats & scented candles!
it was messy, sweaty, ugly-cry stuff. (if you want the full tea on that, i actually wrote a wee blog about it you can read it here)
but here’s the wee shortcut i’ll give you today:
what i learned was that tbh the only way to shut her up is to rewire how your brain talks to her (mine is called gemma btw – i gave her a nice name to make her less of a 1st class scary bish)
& in the end it has all come down to words. yep, words you read that right
but not the fluffy “you got this” shite kinda motivational quotes (personally i find the best place for those is well, up your arse!). i mean fierce, science-backed, sweary affirmations that actually rewire your brain & it’s thought processes
& before you roll your eyes like
“oh here we go with the woo woo”…
hear me out. the science is actually on our side
& me i LOVE a bit of science
Dr. Tara Swart Bieber (neuroscientist & author of The Source) says your brain is plastic
not like full on Barbie-pink plastic, but literally able to reshape itself through neuroplasticity
every time you repeat a thought, you’re laying down new neural pathways
feed it:
“i’m not enough”
& that’s the story it sticks with
feed it bold, powerful words on repeat, & eventually your brain believes that instead
& Dr. James Doty (Stanford neurosurgeon & manifestation researcher) goes a wee bit further
he explains that your “default mode network” (basically the wee inner voice in your head - my gemma) will play whatever script you give it, on loop
doesn’t matter if it’s toxic or fierce AF
so, when you say, write, & visualise affirmations, you’re swapping out the tired old re-run for a brand new season where you’re the main character (ooft had to stop myself, nearly said “energy” there – what can i say gen z on tiktok are rubbing off on me, actually the gen z have it bang on though ‘cause when i asked chat GPT what that actually meant, it said this:
“This attitude encourages prioritization of personal well-being, romanticizes everyday life to find joy in the mundane, and fosters a sense of control and empowerment in a chaotic world”
& i’m so here for that)
because at the end of the day, whether it’s writing in your journal or yelling
“you can handle this shitstorm, kween”
at the bathroom mirror, you’re literally training your brain to back you, not batter you
this isn’t magic. it’s science + repetition + action, kween
whilst i love an affirmation most of the ones out there are too soft, too polite, too Pinterest-pretty to drown out the nasty wee voice in your head
so, yep you guessed it i made my own
they’re bold, sass-infused, a wee bit sweary & full-on art fuelled
& they hit harder than a tequila slammer
‘cause sometimes you don’t need a
“you got this”
you need a
“remember who the FUCK you are”
i’ve also made them free, yep FREE!
so you can get a 7-day “go from unseen to unapologetic” affirmation experience all for nowt, zip, nada!
think:
- feminist AF pop art on your lock screen
- science-backed proven psychology rewiring tools in disguise
- a daily pep-talk (from yours truly) that slaps harder than your inner critic
- printable cards to stick wherever your "gemma" dares to lurk
- a mini mind makeover you’ll actually LOVE!
‘cause one tiny affirmation really can interrupt the spiral, stop the shrinking, start the rewiring & take you into your boss bish era!
& i should know ‘cause i’ve (& am) living it
fancy a swatch then grab it here & let’s reprogram your brain together…
love you, bye
kx
PS from one honest kween to another heres the 4 unapologetic truths i’ve learned along the way:
- affirmations aren’t cute quotes. they’re brain grenades that literally blow self-doubt TF up
- your “gemma” only wins if you let her take the mic
- they work ‘cause science says so, not ‘cause they’re pretty (although i love pretty)
- tequila numbs, affirmations rewire (with no hangover)
x
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My brain could definitely do with a rewire xx